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The Problem With Limiting Myself

I just read one of the best and impactful books that I’ve ever read.  It is called, “The Way of the Dragon or The Way of the Lamb”.  In this book, the authors talk on the difference between gurus and sages, which I believe is a very important message for Christianity today.  I’m not going to review the book now, but I might later.

One thing inside of the book that is touched on quite a bit is finding God’s strength in our weakness.  It really helped me see how I’ve not only taken God out of the equation with “getting things done”, but also how I’ve somehow seen my own weaknesses as complete failures.  Because of that, not only didn’t I rely on God’s strength, but I limited myself because of my own weaknesses.  I had to do some repenting because of that.

Also, it has caused me to stop limiting myself, because I’m not really relying on myself.  If He can convey his messages through a donkey, then He definitely could use me, despite my weaknesses, as well as my strengths which are easy for me to depend on.  Looking at my life these past 10 years, I’ve definitely limited myself, AND GOD because of this.

Now, I’m having to take a step back in some areas, and watch what He does.  In others, I’m having to get beyond my own limited mindsets to seeing myself as God sees me.  I can sing, write, and create in ANY way that I want to.  I love that, and I’m looking forward to the journey that God will take me on.

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I am a fairly strong person, and it is easy for me to tap on my own reserves when dealing with a situation.  However, there was once a situation in my life that I had spent years listening to other people’s advice, as well as tried to work things out my way.  It wasn’t working.  Really, it came down to a huge defect in the other person that I had no control over, (and didn’t want control over, except to be left alone.)

Back last August, I had a moment in prayer, where I believe God freed me from that situation.  I got my authority back in my life and that person’s control over me was gone.  I was still left with the feeling that I “should” keep an eye on things to protect our family, but I felt that God was saying to trust Him.  At first this was hard.  I do believe that God wants us to exercise our free will in most matters.  This one, though, He was saying, “hands off”.  I obeyed, and I found so much freedom.  I haven’t been afraid at all about the situation since then, and it has almost been 9 months.  He is good.

He also asked it of me with my music career.  (The “Erisa Rei” one.)  I watched as He worked out some really cool things with my music that I’d been working hard for on my own.  He met me in my stewardship and the music started doing better.  I’ve even had to turn down gigs, because I felt that I was getting too busy.

Well, now I feel that He is calling me to something different.  I’m not sure what that different looks like.  Is it so I focus on Christian music?  Is it for me to start writing more, outside of songwriting?  Is it so I can just rest?  Is it because He has some other sort of ministry for me?  I’m not sure.  He probably sighs over the amount of questions that I ask Him.  (Much better than the never asking Him questions that was originally the case, but that’s another blog post, maybe.)

I have no idea what the future holds.  I’m a bit impatient about the whole “not-knowing” thing.  However, I’m choosing to trust Him.  I know that it will work out best that way.

“Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight.” – Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV)

 

 

Not Hating Someone Isn’t Loving Them

I was talking to Eric today about how many of us don’t know there is a difference between “not hating” someone and actively loving them.  I’m struggling to write this blog post, because I am personally going through a situation where there are people who are “not hating” me, but they aren’t actively loving me either.  I really don’t want to make this about me and my situation, because I think that this is a world-wide problem with the church.  So, please understand that I am trying to keep this general, and non-specific.

I’ve heard many people talk about an upcoming move of God where many people are going to come to Christ.  What I find strikingly odd about this is that many Christians believe that there is going to be some sort of mass entrance into church buildings, like some sort of world-wide miracle where God is going to lead a bunch of zombie-faced non-believers through church doors.  This concept is delusional.

Let’s look at this from a “normal” perspective.  Say there is a gardener who wants to grow tomatoes in his garden.  Unless he plants a seed in the ground, or someone else plants a seed in a starter pot that he transplants somewhere, he WILL NOT HAVE TOMATOES in his garden.  They won’t miraculously grow.  Someone has to plant the seed.  Someone has to water it, care for the seedling, and watch over it until it bears fruit.  This example brings to my mind Paul’s words.

I have planted, Apollos watered; but God gave the increase.So then neither is he that planteth any thing, neither he that watereth; but God that giveth the increase.Now he that planteth and he that watereth are one: and every man shall receive his own reward according to his own labour. (1 Corinthians 3:6-8)

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A mass entrance into the church without work is highly unlikely, and honestly I hope that it doesn’t happen.  I believe that there are a couple of perspectives that the body of Christ maintains, in general, that are actually detrimental to growth.  One is that for years I’ve watched church-after-church, time-and-time again, try to gather people “to Christ” under the name of their specific church.  Jesus Himself, always pointed to the Father.  We should be directing people to Christ, who leads us to God, not lighting the pathway to our churches.

The second issue is that the church universal is better at “actively hating” or “not hating” people than they are “ACTIVELY LOVING” them.  What I mean by this is that I feel that the church is way too inbred, too self-involved.  They have adopted the mentality of “come to our church, and you will be loved”.  However, if you go to a church, and leave, they will either actively hate you, or passively “not hate” you.  In my experiences, the disconnect happens because they disagree with your stance or are too afraid to “actively love” by maintaining community.  I am a Christian.  If they can’t “actively love” me, because of my reasons, how are they going to be able to “actively love” someone who isn’t a Christian at all?

What do I think “actively love” means?  It means to put yourself out there at the expense of your reputation for someone else.  To “actively love” someone is to be there for them, whether or not you agree with everything that they do or say.  It means biting your tongue at the right time, or boldly speaking truth when the time is right.  To “actively love” is to not let fear of losing face dictate your actions.  “Actively loving” means getting outside the four walls of the church.  It says to meet unbelievers where they are at, being honest about our own mistakes, sharing a meal with them, and just loving them.  It definitely doesn’t mean you start spending time with them in order for them to become your pet project.  It means you love them and appreciate the good qualities in them, right where they are at AT THAT MOMENT.  It means that you don’t have all of your shizzle together, like you might think you do.  (Just sayin’.) “Actively loving” someone means admitting mistakes, and eating humble pie.  You can’t love someone if you think you have it all together. News flash: You don’t. I don’t.  None of us do.  

“Not hating” someone is a passive stance.  It actually is a lazy one too.

“Not hating” someone is a passive stance.  It actually is a lazy one too.  It is usually based in fear.  You can “not hate” someone into never going to church again.   When we left a certain church in 2009, we didn’t attend regularly again until 2017.  I honestly think that is where God had us at, but at the same time, I know 100% that my healing process would have went years faster if more Christians would have spent time “actively loving” on me.

Sadly, I don’t think that the church knows how to “actively love”.  Until they do, the mass entrance in the church won’t happen.  There are at least two reasons why.  One, they aren’t doing the work.  They are either hating unbelievers by trying to hold them to a Christian standard that the unbelievers haven’t ever lived by or understand, or they are passively “not hating” them by not being involved in their communities AS A HUMAN BEING.  (Not under a church name, or under the name of Christianity… just being a LOVING human being.)  Secondly, even if God would miraculously direct masses into the church doors, why would He want to with the church like it is in the state of passively “not hating”?  We aren’t mature enough for that yet.  Gulp.

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How many more would be saved?

It isn’t our “awesome” praise service, or our extracurricular church activities, or our “righteousness” or how pretty we look in our Sunday outfit, or how big our building is, or how many people attend our church, that draws people to God.  In fact, I think these things are deterrents.  How many more would be saved if we would stop going to so many church activities and spent the time asking our neighbors or co-workers over for a meal just because we honestly want to get to know them?  I think quite a bit more, actually.